The Myths of Anal

No, anal is not for everyone. But how do you know if you never try?

Does the thought of anal sex send you ducking for cover? Maybe it shouldn't.

Does the thought of anal sex send you ducking for cover? Maybe it shouldn't.

In a lot of ways, anal sex is like jogging. Some people swear by it, some people hate it, some people try it out a few times (and don't see what the big deal is) and a lot of people can't imagine why anyone would want to do it ever. For any reason. Ever.

Like jogging, anal sex can hurt if you don't do it right, but it shouldn't hurt at all. Like jogging, the more you practice anal sex, the better you'll get at it — and the more pleasure you'll derive from it. And, the truth is, like jogging, anal sex is ultimately not for everyone. Some people just aren't into it. And that's okay. But how do you know if you don't try? The misconceptions that swirl around anal are probably keeping many people on the side lines who could be enjoying a nice run in the park.

In a piece for Cosmopolitan, clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk looks at ten of the biggest misconceptions surrounding the tender passage. The issue of pain understandably takes the top spot:

THE MYTH: It will hurt.
THE TRUTH: Anal sex doesn't have to hurt. It's often just done incorrectly. Many [people] find it incredibly pleasurable, and some even report having orgasms… If you and your partner start slow, work your way into insertion with smaller implements like fingers and sex toys and use plenty of lube, pain will be the last thing on your mind.

Dr. Kirk also advices against expecting anal sex to save a soured sex life (it's good, but it's not that good!):

THE MYTH: Having anal sex will save your sex life.
THE TRUTH: Yes, I have actually heard this in my office more than once. It usually has to do with a couple that has more than once sexual issue, especially a female who might be inhibited about her sexuality and it is getting in the way of her sex life with her partner. Some men behold anal sex as the holy grail and if they can just get their wives and girlfriends to partake then the floodgates (so to speak) about sex would open in general. Those other issues need to be worked out ahead of time and then if and when she feels open to the experience should they approach the subject. If she is just doing it out of fear of losing her relationship, she probably won't enjoy it anyway.

Read the full piece "The 10 Biggest Misconceptions About Anal Sex" by Anna Breslaw on

The Pitfall of Cheap Thrills

Super-cheap sex toys are often not the bargains they appear to be.

Can you spot the fake? It's not always so obvious...

Can you spot the fake? It's not always so obvious...

Sex toys can often be found deeply discounted from online sellers on sites like Amazon and eBay. High-end toys from Lelo and many other luxury brands can be found on offer for a fraction of their MSRP. The problem? They're pretty much all fakes.

Besides the obvious problems of this cheap merchandise being poorly made, short lived and not covered by warranties, knockoff products can pose a real physical risk to their users.

EJ Dickson from DailyDot:

The sex toy counterfeiting predominantly takes place offshore, mostly in China, where manufacturers are not held to the same production standards as sex toy makers in the U.S. This leads sex toy counterfeiters to substitute materials in their products with potentially unsafe chemicals like melamine, a chemical that is approved by the FDA for manufacturing purposes, but not for human consumption.

How does one avoid getting stiffed with a fake? Buy from a reputable seller and be wary of discounts that look too good to be true (most of them are).

See source link below for the full article.

Why Bigger is Not Always Better

Penis size: a little delusion goes a long way

Penis size: a little delusion goes a long way

Funny story: NASA had to change the labels on the sleeves male astronauts use to cover their members while urinating, because too many of them were grabbing the LARGE when what they needed was a MEDIUM or SMALL. And they were getting pee all over the spaceship. 

The solution? Change the labels to LARGE, GIGANTIC and HUMONGOUS. Funny, but also a little sad.

Men (even ones smart enough to be astronauts) are notoriously hung up on how hung they are - but should they be? Sexperts EJ Dickson and Nico Lang from the Daily Dot have at least seven reasons why the answer is no.

Read the full piece on (source link below).

Quick Tip: Hybrid Lubes

Maybe you can have it all! Hybrid lubricants combine the best of silicone and water-based formulas producing super-slick, long lasting products that are non-staining and easy to clean up.

Though still not quite as slick as pure silicone, hybrid products are a definite step up from water-based lubes. A few things to keep in mind: unlike pure silicone, hybrids are not water-proof, so for bath tub sex, silicone is still the way to go; and like silicone, hybrid products should not be used with toys made from silicone.

Hybrid brands you might try: Jo Hybrid, Wet Synergy, Encounter Silk

Buying a Vibrator

Buying a Vibrator

Looking for Mr. Right? With hundreds of different vibrators out there in dozens of different shapes and sizes, it's easy to feel overwhelmed, but shopping for a sex toy should be fun!

Vibrators have come a long way since their invention over a hundred years ago; and today's toys offer ways to get you off faster, better and in greater style than ever. All you need to find the perfect one for YOU is an open mind and a little know-how. So let's dive in girlfriend!